"The New Standard"
Living The Dream..
I personally write my "Insights" as they present themselves, and what motivates me. I’m inspired to express my thoughts, views, and feelings. My “Insights” are a culmination of events, situations, and circumstances. I’ve witnessed over my life. Absorbing everything I’ve seen on television, heard on the radio, read from a variety of articles, magazines, and books. Possibly you’ve heard or read the same things. Maybe you’re hearing this for the first time. I’d like to give you a new perspective on an old way of viewing life. I hope you walk away motivated and inspired with what I’ve had to share. As you read each of my "Insights". Please don't rush and/or speed read through. If you do plow through what I have to express, you'll miss a lot! I encourage you to take as much time as you need/like with each one.
My Insights are sectioned by the year they're written. I encourage you to explore my ever-increasing and always educational journe.
January, 2013 (And Beyond)
My Mission Statement
My mission are for women and men of all ages to know they’re an exceptional individual, no matter their size. With unique abilities, talents, and gifts that are exclusively their own. We all can contribute to life. It’s finding that capability and using it. The accomplishments don’t always have to be physical. There are mental, and emotional triumphs as well.
These Are My "Insights"
Love Is A Choice
Is there such a thing as love at first sight, do you believe in, does it even exist when you first meet someone. There is an instant attraction, the emotional/infatuation can be strong. Your heart skips a beat, you get butterflies in your stomach. At times you’re speechless with excitement. Just thinking about that person, or talking about them to other people sends an endorphin rush. Excitement washes over you like a cascade of warm fuzzies. Hearing their voice on the phone, or even getting a text hurls you into orbit. You possibly designate a special ring tone, waiting and making sure you don’t miss any opportunity to hear from them. Your awareness is on high alert, that cheerful sensation washes over you like a waterfall that becomes addicting. You need your audio, visual, and verbal fix. You tell everyone who will listen, how glorious life is. How wonderful and magnificent this person is whom you’ve just met and came into your life.
As the friendship matures and is catapulted into something more romantic. Everything is great and wonderful. The honeymoon period and fascination is going strong. After a while reality creeps in, a routine is formed, and a sense of normalcy is establish. The little behavioral qualities you didn’t see at first, or happened to overlook. Are now highlighted and brought to the forefront. The things you thought were cute and adorable are now starting to become irritating. Plus, those things are now being a distraction from the perfect beauty you first discovered. The stress of life is being dumped on you and the relationship which lays on your heart and mind like a ton of bricks.
What’s your decision(s), and actions from that point? A choice needs to be taken. The 1st option can be to simply walk away and to cut your losses, and be done. Hoping not to much time has gone by. Which can be the easier of the two. The 2nd alternative is digging your heels in. Investing in what you’ve already started. Knowing this person is worth your time, effort, energy, emotion, and love. Only you can make that decision. Making the endeavor isn’t only admirable, it’s a character builder. Demonstrating the integrity you have for yourself, and showing dependability and consistency toward the healthier future together. No the relationship wont be trouble-free or painless. On the contraire, your emotions will be tried and tested.
This is where love is a choice. Even though the relationship hits some rough patches, and isn’t perfect anymore like in the beginning. It’s the commitment you’ve made that will make everything worth while. Granted there are going to be some emotional and verbal confrontations with some stubborn days. There will also be times of great, spectacular, and amazing days. Of course, it’s fun and easy to be in the relationship with those days, of course. Simultaneously, the relationship will have its up and downs. How both people handle the rough days together, will determine the future. Remembering, you are a team together. Not a competition against one another, or keeping score.
Dating is an adventure/task all its own when you’re trying to be exclusive with someone in your own town, near by, or long distance. The effort can be challenging at best. So many obstacles and road blocks. If you happen to be in a long distance relationship. The challenges where multiplied 10 fold. Writing letters (with countless) pages. Stamp after stamp waiting became unbearable for a response. Life happened far faster than the reply and return time. Especially when a Holiday was near, having to wait several more days. And that’s if the person responded the same day they received your letter. If you happen to have the money, the immediate response was a phone call. Not a guarantee the person would be home, leaving a message on their answering machine. Collecting the preverbal phone tag, adding several hundred dollars or more onto the phone bill each month. Depending how long you talked and how often.
That was prior to July of 1996, that‘s when the internet and AOL exploded with popularity. Fast forwarding to modern times and the miracles of technology. Ever evolving and improving to make it easier for people to meet. The distance between two people no matter the location(s) in the world is cut by 90%. There are so many ways to communicate and connect with someone, its almost stalkerish. With all the capabilities nowadays. Computers, laptops, tablets, and smart phones. Social medias, emails, webcams, texting, picture mail. The potential is almost invasive in the ways people can unite. Comparison to yester year. Being in a long distance relationship is as easy as picking up the phone. The immersion is virtually complete, minus the physical contact. You practically need to be disenchanted with someone for the relationship not to work. Making excuses, rationalizing, and convincing yourself in having no faith in the other person.
There are variables in lifestyles, schedules, normal routines, time changes when it comes to distance. Yes, there is a bit more work in planning to spend time together. I’m not expressing it’s going to be easy, or a walk in the park. What I’m articulating is that it’s “easier” than it use to be. What I’m communicating is when you’re truly enamored with someone. The feelings are genuine, the location and distance shouldn’t be a factor. Both people need to continuously contribute equal effort for the relationship to have any kind of sustainability. The end goal is to ultimately be together. Until one person initiates the physical move of their life and willing to relocate towards the other. Both people are still getting to know each other. Taking into consideration the trend is dead as much as the black and white television programs, where you meet a special someone through someone else. The gate has swung wide open now to the entire world. It’s not just the circle of friends, co-workers, family members, and acquaintances anymore. People don’t have to depend on others to find a special someone. If you’re willing and have an open mind to take that chance. You unlocked so many possibilities to find that right person.
The key is knowing what you want, don’t want, and especially what are deal breakers in a mate. Distance is only a temporary inconvenience at best. What’s a couple of years (at most) finding out about the other person. Comparing to the rest of your life. It’s time well spent, when you’ve find that right person. All it takes is patience’s, understanding, and a willing attitude.
January first of every year, there’s a collective ritual of starting over. Trying to break a negative or bad habit. My question is, why wait. The preverbal I’ll start on Monday, the first of the month, etc. What’s the significant pay off for waiting. If your hungry, do you tell yourself. I’ll eat when the time is right. I‘ll do it after, I get past these other things first.
If your truly motivated in making a difference. Why wait and have the possibility for failure, or ultimately not doing it at all. If you in all honesty want an item of clothing, that special gift you’ve been wanting. You may or may not wait until it’s on sale. When you’re truly ready, you purchase it devoid of any regret, and triumphantly walk away. So proud you finally have that one thing you’ve been waiting for.
Now, understanding the decisions in life aren’t that easy or fast to overcome. When the signs of life show it’s not working anymore and change is needed. We typically dismiss the signs and red flags in our face. Excuses are made, it’s not that bad. Reasons are expressed why it’s not our fault. Justification after explanation spew out like water from a broken fire hydrant. Contemplating and hoping if we complain to enough people, life will get better on it own. There’s a price to pay for keeping things the same. And there’s a price for making things better. Which cost would you rather pay! Complaining will not get you past it, only working towards the solution will.
No matter what has happened in the past. Short or long term of an event. You’ve accomplished so much already, if you know it or not. The greatest achievement about today? You lived through yesterday and you’re past it now. It’s your choice if you want to relive it in your mind. Pain is evadible, we’ll never escape it. Misery is a choice! A time in my life, I’d hold on to things and allow them to fester and eat away at me. Thinking I couldn’t do thing one about it. Realizing now, I could’ve taken action.
We have choices, not matter the obstacle. We can ignore it or deal with it. Neither one will be easy, yet dealing with it. Will draw far more rewards, inner peace, and self confidence.
"On A More Personal Note" ~ I was going to wait until January 1st to publish this Insight. Thinking to myself, saying. Self, why wait! You need to talk the talk and to walk the walk with conviction. I published this Insight on December 24th, 2012. Demonstrating I back up my words with action! I just don't talk about it, I Be About It..!!
More To Come.